Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness.  Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain.  One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts.  I’ve decided to take part in this month’s Link Up Party. And to use the prompts to help me look toward the future with life with a neurological disorder.

Dedicating

Dedicating: Verb. To devote wholly and earnestly, as to some person or purpose

This year, I have made it my purpose to dedicate this year to becoming more positive.

Every year, emails start dropping in our inboxes promising a “new year, a new you.” They claim that with hard work, and dedication then we can become a new, improved and healthier version of ourselves. Sounds incredible, right?

A New Year, a New You?

When living with chronic illness and chronic pain, however, a ‘new year, a new you’ is merely a dream. With little to no chance of becoming a reality. Only a few days into 2019 and the crippling nerve pain that shoots throughout my legs has followed me into this year from the last. The promise of a fresh start, already obliterated.

When living with a chronic illness, a 'new year, a new you' is merely a dream with little to no chance of becoming a reality. Click To Tweet

A ‘new year’ is an illusion as when living with pain and illness, as there is nothing new in our lives.

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When living with chronic pain and other debilitating symptoms associated with chronic illness, it can be challenging to find joy and excitement for the new year. Particularly true when the only thing we have to look forward to is life with a chronic illness.

It can be challenging to find joy and excitement for the new year when the only thing we have to look forward to is the effects of chronic illness. Click To Tweet

Following my year of resilience from last year, I am attempting to find the good in each day. And perhaps if I am unable to find the good, then maybe I need to create my own good things. Once again, I am dusting off my ‘joy jar’ in the determination to fill it up with some incredible memories from the year ahead.

I am dedicating this year to positivity!

Establishing

Establishing: Verb. To install or settle in a position, place, business, etc

I was disappointed at the end of last year to find that I had failed to reach my target to read 40 books by the end of 2018.

Anyone who regularly reads the blog, or follows me on social media will know that I am a massive bookworm, and reading is one of my favourite past times. However, symptoms such as pain, and dizziness make it challenging to be able to do so. Other times I am too tired to read, and I fall asleep before my head hits the pillow.

It is the first year, however, that I have been unable to reach my target on GoodReads. Because of this, therefore, it feels that much more of a failure. This year, I am going to establish a routine. To put aside some time for me each night, before going to bed, or time during the day when resting, to sit and read for an hour or even half an hour. Hopefully, by setting some time each day to read, even for just a short amount of time, I will reach my intended target with ease.

By establishing a regular routine and setting time aside each day to read it will help me reach my intended target with ease. Click To Tweet

Breaking

Breaking: Verb. To put an end to; overcome; stop

Yes, I feel frustrated at myself and the symptoms that held me back from completing my GoodReads Challenge for last year. As a result, this year I am going to try and attempt to break from the guilt that emanates from the inability to complete tasks because of chronic illness.

I know that I must do better in accepting that this neurological disorder will forever accompany my life. I know I must ditch the guilt when I am unable to do something, or complete a task, or even I have to say no to something. After all, pain and the other symptoms that we have to deal with every day gives us enough to cope with already.

Pain and the other symptoms that we have to deal with every day gives us enough to cope with already without adding guilt into the mix. Click To Tweet

And guilt uses up energy; energy that is already scarce. Discarding the guilt, therefore, will allow that free energy for something else; something we can do.

Guilt uses up energy; energy that is already scarce. We need to break free from the guilt to allow us to use the energy for something else. Click To Tweet

Last year, I also began the arduous task in breaking away from those relationships that were damaging my mental health. To defriend those on Facebook and break free from seeing pictures and statuses regarding events that I failed to be invited to, often not knowing about them until logging on to social media. It’s not because I don’t care about them, perhaps I do too much, and that’s why it hurts. It’s because they don’t care about me.

Strengthening

Strengthening: Verb. To make stronger; give strength to

If 2018 was a year of resilience, then I wish for 2019 to be a year of strength. I want to take steps to be physically and emotionally strong.

Recently, the pain and trembling in the legs have been particularly severe. The weakness is becoming problematic and leading to more episodes of them giving way. As a result, I need to find ways of strengthening the muscles in my legs.

It feels necessary as they continuously feel weak, yet it often seems impossible. The debilitating nerve pain and the constant fatigue just makes the mere idea of exercising daunting and unattainable.

I also need to strengthen my emotional resilience. To not allow the challenges and setbacks to knock the confidence that I have learned hard to regain.

Although I have determined to be more resilient during the last 365 days, does not mean that I am always successful at it. There have been times when circumstances have knocked me off course, leading to feelings of upset and frustration.

I must, therefore, learn to be stronger and not allow setbacks and challenges to enable me to fall into a depression.

Allowing

Allowing: Verb. To give permission to or for; permit

When I am alone, only greeted the sound of silence for company, it is easy to occupy myself with chores. To not allow me to enjoy the peace but to fill the silence and boredom with plenty of activity.

When living with a chronic illness, however, to do so often only leads to increased levels of pain and worsening fatigue. And is something that I am often guilty of, especially since the death of our dog nearly three years ago. I found it was easier to rest and be comforted by her affection when she was around. Now however, I struggle with the quiet and boredom of being alone and I tend to overdo things as a result.

This year, therefore, I am allowing myself to relinquish the need for activity and to be kept busy. To let me rest and let me be until the severity of the symptom subsides. To allow my body to recuperate until I am feeling physically better and stronger to be able to do chores.

It is the year for allowing myself to relax and enjoy the solitude by resting without giving in to the guilt.

What are your plans for 2019?