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A Chronic Illness Edition of Snakes & Ladders

September 8, 2019 2 Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This month, I will be musing on how this chronic life is very much like playing a continuous game of the classic board game ‘Snakes and Ladders.’

Life With Chronic Illness Is Like A Game of Snakes and Ladders

Do you sometimes feel that you are winning in life; landing on the bottom rung of a ladder, climbing further and further toward success and fulfilment. But only then for life to take a sudden downturn. Landing on a snake and forced to slide downwards toward despair.

Yes, life, and especially life with a chronic illness is much like a real-life version of snakes and ladders. The symptoms, like the snakes on the game board, lie in wait to ruin our lucky streak.

"Yes, life, and especially life with a chronic illness is much like a real-life version of snakes and ladders. The symptoms, like the snakes on the game board, lie in wait to ruin our lucky streak." Click To Tweet

Unfortunately, during recent weeks, I have been finding more snakes than ladders in my chronic edition of the classic board game.

When living with chronic illness, and its numerous symptoms that affect us it can feel like continually finding the snakes in a game of ‘Snakes & Ladders’

Once again, the weakness and trembling in the legs have become worse. I have been finding myself on the floor, again and again, after my legs give way with no warning. Living with a neurological disorder is continually finding new bruises but having no clue of where they have come from, or how we arrived to develop them.

As such, I am also finding a significant decrease in my self-confidence. The weakness, debilitating trembling and the falls have made me afraid of my own body; no longer confident in its ability to keep me safe and free from harm. Fear causes tentative steps toward the unknown, toward unpredictability. And it is never-knowing when my legs will next decide to collapse from under me suddenly.

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The Anxiety That Accompanies Illness and The Fear of What Could Be

Going out with trembling legs, aware of the unpredictability of such symptoms, and recognising that my legs could suddenly stop working at any moment causes anxiety. A consequence of living with a long-term and its symptoms is fear. Illness creates a fear of the unknown as well as a fear of what could happen.

"A consequence of living with a long-term and its symptoms is fear. Illness creates a fear of the unknown as well as a fear of what could happen." Click To Tweet

The knowledge that the ‘what could’ happen is very likely to happen but not knowing when can frighten. The unknown invokes anxiety when needing to leave the comfort zones we have built.

"The knowledge that the 'what could' happen is very likely to happen but not knowing when can frighten. The unknown invokes anxiety when needing to leave the comfort zones we have built." Click To Tweet

Every Day Needing To Find Our New Limits

Time and time again, I have discussed how life with chronic illness never changes; every day feels like the day before. That living with chronic illness can feel like you are living your version of Groundhog Day. The truth is, however, that not every day is the same; symptoms can come or go, or they can remain stable or get worse. In regards to the symptoms that accompany the disorder with which we live, every day is a blank slate.

Able to do that thing today? No idea! Only by research can we tell our capabilities for the day ahead. Photo by Emily Morter on Unsplash

And as such, each day we wake, not knowing the limits or abilities that we possess, and the restraints that illness now poses. So every day requires researching what our body can handle and what we can and cannot do. Tentative and careful steps every morning as hasty research into the current levels of pain. Or the current rate of mobility. A ritual performed every day even with the dreaded knowledge that it could change within a blink of an eye. There is a relief when the research suggests low levels of pain and relatively good mobility. But on the days where the pain is crippling, and walking short distances is difficult, we face the day with dread and apprehension.

Inability To Enjoy ‘Dates’ When Suffering Disabling Symptoms

Living with such debilitating and limiting symptoms means that dating is on the last thing on my mind. And it even if it were, I often feel that nobody would be interested in me. I often feel like a burden and not good enough. Being stuck in the house the majority of my time, due to disabling symptoms, when I do go out, I like to think of the trips as ‘dates‘ from my prison cell.

Although I appreciate these ‘dates’, and the time away from home, I have been unfortunately struggling with them lately, not enjoying them as I once did. It is challenging to enjoy days out when legs are trembling so badly and feeling completely weak that they might collapse at any moment.

Being afraid and unsafe in your own body also makes you feel frightened and unsafe when venturing outside our comfort zone. Afraid that today will be the day when legs will give way and suffering a humiliating fall in public. It’s enough to make you want to stay inside the safety of our comfort zone where our ‘dates‘ can include watching a film on the sofa instead.

"Being afraid and unsafe in your own body also makes you feel frightened and unsafe when venturing outside our comfort zone. It's enough to make you want to stay inside the safety of home." Click To Tweet

Sometimes the only date that my fragile body and wobbly has the energy for, unfortunately!

And then there’s the overwhelming fatigue that such symptoms cause. The mere thought of going out even for a short while seems like being asked to climb Mount Everest. I was recently reading about the potential capabilities of energy recycling. A process where the energy that would otherwise be wasted and converting it into electricity or thermal energy -thereby enabling us all to reuse energy. It left me wishing that I could reuse lost energy which would allow me to do so much more than I can do currently.

"Oh, how I wish we could reuse energy something that would allow me to do so much more than I can do currently." Click To Tweet

There May Be Snakes Now, But There Still Will Be Ladders Too

As I recount on the journey of living with a neurological disorder, there have been highs and lows. Unfortunately, like when living with any long-term health condition, the lows have outweighed the highs. In this life of ‘Snakes and Ladders,’ I continually seem to keep landing on the snakes, causing me to travel further from the place I want to be. Despite this, however, I know there will be ladders ahead, that will propel me forward and into the stratosphere (and success). Until then, I will have to continue rolling the dice and trying to avoid those dreaded snakes.

"I know there will be ladders ahead, that will propel me forward and into the stratosphere (and success). Until then, I will have to continue rolling the dice and trying to avoid those dreaded snakes." Click To Tweet

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Snapshots of A Chronic Life

August 13, 2019 8 Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This month, I will be looking at snapshots of a ‘chronic life’ if it was portrayed on screen.

Recently I watched ‘Unbroken: The Path to Redemption,’ the inspiring of Louis Zamperini. The film follows his return from World War II, and his ongoing struggles to adjust back to civilian life.

‘Film Based on Real Life’ – one of my favourite categories on Netflix

I particularly enjoy watching films which depict true stories of real people. I love movies which capture the real lives and real struggles of amazing and inspiring people. Films capturing the stories of overcoming great adversity are incredibly poignant for a person like myself, who is suffering from demons.

Capturing Life With A Chronic Illness

It has made me wonder what a film capturing the life of someone living with a chronic illness would entail. Would anyone even enjoy or be interested in a movie depicting a story of someone diagnosed with a neurological disorder?

My love for those films depicting the true stories of inspiring individuals made me reflect on what a film about someone living with a chronic illness would be life.
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The answer would, unfortunately, be no. The truth is that although life with a chronic illness is anything but ordinary, it is one that can be monotonous. In the film Groundhog Day, the life of the main character repeats on an endless loop. The protagonist destined to repeat the same day over and over again. And this description is very much like what it is like to live with a chronic illness.

The reality of living with a chronic illness, it that every day is a repetition of the day before; consisting of the same symptoms. And restricted by the same limitations that these symptoms create.

"The reality of living with a chronic illness, it that every day is a repetition of the day before; consisting of the same symptoms. And restricted by the same limitations that these symptoms create." Click To Tweet

The beauty of the stories captured on screen is the vast array of different scenery; the varied locations in which the characters spend their time.

What would the snapshots of your chronic life show?
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For those who are chronically ill, the majority of the time we spend within the confines of the same four walls. And when we do venture, out, we do so too familiar and safe locations.

And much of the time is spent alone; alone in our suffering. When we do venture out, or see people, we only do so when we feel comfortable enough to be seen, or feel somewhat in control of our symptoms. Being in control of something, in life where we think we have very little control.

Financing Between What We Can and Cannot Do

In this mundane and monotonous existence of living with chronic illness, is a need for carefully financing between what we can and cannot do. We wish that we could live like those characters in our favourite films, but unfortunately illness and pain our ability to do so.

Living with a chronic illness requires the need to balance the books between what we can and cannot do…
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Instead, we must carefully budget the limited energy we possess to be able to carry out the most critical tasks on our to-do list. And still, we must ensure that we have enough energy for the next day. As we balance the books between illness and the rest of our lives, the losses we have endured become much more evident.

"As we balance the books between illness and the rest of our lives, the losses we have endured become much more evident." Click To Tweet

Chronic illness, a constant thief, stealing abilities that once came so naturally. The continuous losses that we experience so cruelly are part of life with a chronic illness that we must grieve. It is not, however, a snapshot of this chronic life that we wish to be captured on screen for others to witness and study.

"Chronic illness, a constant thief, stealing abilities that once came so naturally. The continuous losses that we experience so cruelly are part of life with a chronic illness that we must grieve." Click To Tweet

Chronic Illness: A Controlling Thief

Watching those characters in our favourite television show or films, they seem so confident; in control of their lives. When living with a neurological disorder, however, much of our control transferred to the disease itself. Symptoms are controlling our bodies, affecting every facet of our lives.

We must learn to accept that for which we cannot control. And to have the courage to change those things that we can. To let go of the life that we dreamed we have, and to embrace the reality of the new life that has entered our life unexpectedly.

"We must learn to accept that for which we cannot control. And to have the courage to change those things that we can. And to embrace the reality of the new life that has entered our life unexpectedly." Click To Tweet

Exchanging Helplessness For Control in Defiance of the Uncontrollable

We wish we could exchange the feelings of helplessness for being in control in defiance of the uncontrollable. We desperately want to exchange our chronic lives and its debilitating symptoms for something better. A life that largely depends on surviving for a more productive and accomplished existence.

Living with a chronic illness requires constant adaptation, and with its growing what we can no longer do, we must exchange these for what we can. To live with life we can and to try and not dwell on the life we can no longer have. And the wish to exchange this new mundane life for one which is exciting and unique to be on the big screen.

"Living with a chronic illness requires constant adaptation, and exchange what we can no longer do with things that we can. To live with life we can and to try and not dwell on the life we can no longer have." Click To Tweet

Illness Is A Motivation Killer

I have great admiration for those characters that demonstrate a great deal of motivation to improve their lives and the lives of those around them. Living with a chronic illness, however, find that my motivation ebbs and flows. It is easy to find the motivation to do something, do anything on those rare good days. On the days where symptoms are unrelenting, it is hard even to find the motivation to get out of bed.

When going through the tough times and find ourselves in the darkness, it can be challenging to claw ourselves out of the dark pit. The motivation to do anything is non-existent.

But dig ourselves out of the pit, we must, to rebuild a life worth living. It may not be the life we had planned, or a story worthy of an Oscar-worthy film. But it can still be a life that we can be proud of; it might not be a normal life, but it is ours.

"It may not be the life we had planned, or a story worthy of an Oscar-worthy film. But it can still be a life that we can be proud of; it might not be a normal life, but it is ours." Click To Tweet

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Uncertainty of Living With Chronic Illness

June 8, 2019 16 Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This month, I have used the prompts to look at the uncertainty and unpredictability of living with chronic illness.

The Repetition of Illness and Its Symptoms

We all, to some extent, live with uncertainty. None of us know what the future holds, and it can be exciting living life with a degree of spontaneity. When living with a chronic illness, and chronic pain, living with such uncertainty can be anything but thrilling.

"It can be exciting living life with a degree of spontaneity. When living with a chronic illness, and chronic pain, living with such uncertainty can be anything but thrilling." Click To Tweet

We may not know when symptoms are going to return, but the only thing that we can be sure about is that they will return.

Living with uncertainty feels like being trapped in an endless cycle of pain and fatigue and other troublesome symptoms. There are some periods of respite in between, although they never seem long enough. And just as we are enjoying this quiet moment of pause, the symptoms repeating. There is a constant repetition of symptoms.

Living with a great deal of uncertainty is very much like driving on a road with no road map and with no idea of the direction we are headed. And also with no idea where we will end up!

Pain and illness have their logic. They both play by their own set of rules. And when we thought we had learned their rules, they suddenly move the goalposts. And we have to learn a whole new set of rules. For instance, when living with pain and illness, we need to learn how to pace so as not to exacerbate or trigger the symptoms that accompany such conditions. But sometimes the limits that have worked to help stave off pain or fatigue no longer work, and left wondering what now?

"Pain and illness have their logic. They both play by their own set of rules. And when we thought we had learned their rules, they suddenly move the goalposts. And we have to learn a whole new set of rules." Click To Tweet

The Wondering Questions of Uncertainty and Unpredictability

A new diagnosis leaves several questions in its wake. We are left wondering how to interpret these symptoms. And wondering what these symptoms may be trying to reveal. In the wake of a diagnosis, you wonder about all the possible treatments available and whether they will be effective. We begin questioning the reactions and opinions of others when learning of our sudden new reality. Most of all, however, we wonder about our long-term prognosis and how the condition will affect our long-term plans.

"We are left wondering how to interpret these symptoms and what they may be trying to reveal…The uncertainty and unpredictability of pain leave us wondering and pondering many questions." Click To Tweet

When pain returns or suddenly arrives, we are once again wondering and attempting to identify from where it appeared. Have I sat or slept in an awkward position? Could I have done something to prevent it? Who knows. The uncertainty and unpredictability of pain leave us wondering and pondering many questions.

There are a lot of questions that are left us to wonder when diagnosed with a long-term health condition. A lot of questions that often have uncertain answers

All in all, being diagnosed with a chronic illness is enough for turning life entirely on its head. After such a pronouncement, there is a before and after. There is a time before the illness and after the illness. A whole new world that we have to learn how to navigate, and a new language we need to learn how to speak.

"There is a time before the illness and after the illness. A whole new world that we have to learn how to navigate, and a new language we need to learn how to speak." Click To Tweet

Pain and Illness Requires Turning Into Uncertain Roads

This new world of chronic illness and learning to live with symptoms is one filled with uncertainty. Every day requires turning into unknown roads uncertain of what we will find there. After waking up in bed, after a restless night starts with a body scan. A way of determining what hurts and wondering what today will bring in terms of symptoms.

We cannot even relax for a minute, however, as often what we think will be a low pain day or one with minimal symptoms doesn’t last, hope extinguished as they suddenly make their presence known. Just when we thought we had reached a turning point in regards to our health, something else affirming its unpredictability. Reiterating the uncertainty of life, controlled by illness and its accompanying symptoms.

Getting Used to Living With Uncertainty

Uncertainty of living with a chronic illness is challenging to have to learn to live with during our daily life. Upon getting up each morning, we reflect on the uncertainty of the day ahead. We can never be confident or complacent that the day will unfold as we think it will. But unfortunately, uncertainty is something that we have to learn to live with every day.

black and white photo of woman staring out of a window

"Upon getting up each morning, we reflect on the uncertainty of the day ahead. We can never be confident or complacent that the day will unfold as we think it will." Click To Tweet

Getting used to uncertainty, there is a need to learn to use humour when symptoms disrupt our plans for the day. Or to use it to deflect from the often embarrassing consequences that some symptoms can have. For instance, learning to laugh when legs suddenly give way often causing very public falls. It’s also essential to learn to forgive ourselves when such events occur, as often we are unable to control the pain or fatigue that our bodies create.

Desiring Certainty and The “Can” In Life Ahead

Yes, I often desire a more certain and better quality of life. Desiring the destruction of the giant question mark that illness has placed in the road ahead of me. Desiring the ability to make concrete and certain plans, without the constant worry whether my health or symptoms will ruin them, forcing my hand to cancel or postpone them.

Woman carefree and happy existance — I want to embrace the times that I “can” instead of those times that I “can’t.” To become a person that battles a chronic illness rather than someone who suffers from it.

I want to desire and feel the excitement of times that I “can” instead of the bitter disappointment for the times that I “can’t”. To take control and become a person who battles a neurological disorder rather than someone who suffers from such a condition.

"I want to desire and feel the excitement of times that I "can" instead of the bitter disappointment for the times that I "can't". To become a person who battles a neurological disorder rather than someone who suffers from one." Click To Tweet

Uncertainty of Living With Chronic Illness

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Coming Out Of A Flare: Finding Light At The End Of A Tunnel

May 14, 2019 12 Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. This month, I have decided to use the prompts to look at life after a flare.

Anyone living with a chronic illness has experienced a flare. And so, would agree when I say how difficult and distressing it can be experiencing one. Many fellow bloggers have written posts on what it is to experience a flare. I have even written a series of posts on living through a hellish flare. It can be an extremely dark time, but what happens when the current eruption of disabling symptoms start to dissipate into the ether?

Black and white silhouette of a woman standing and staring out of a window — During a flare we are trapped inside bodies that are overrun with symptoms; and trapped inside the same four walls of our homes as we wait for it to be over

"Living through a flare can be an extremely dark time, but what happens when the current eruption of disabling symptoms start to dissipate into the ether?" Click To Tweet

Out of A Flare – Starting to Regroup and Putting the Pieces of a Broken Life Back Together

Experiencing a severe and debilitating flare can make you feel like life is on pause. Energy and strength, everything that usually helps you continue despite persistent symptoms from chronic illness are in scarce supply. As such even getting out of bed or having a shower requires a considerable amount of energy. Days spent rationing the limited power that we do possess. There is no energy to live, only just enough to survive the days ahead.

When coming out of this current flare, we begin to see the light at the end of a dark tunnel. As the light becomes nearer and brighter, we can start regrouping the pieces of our broken lives that illness has destroyed, back together. To start beginning to regroup, putting ourselves back together and allowing ourselves to regain control over symptoms that once had sole authority.

Black and white image of light at end of a long, dark tunnel — When coming out a flare we begin to see light at end the end of a very long, dark tunnel

"When coming out of a flare, we can begin to see the light at the end of a dark tunnel. As the light becomes nearer and brighter, we can start regrouping the pieces of our broken lives that illness has destroyed, back together." Click To Tweet

After a flare, there is a need to regroup and regather the tools that had been cast aside, to help us thrive despite illness and its accompanying symptoms. To allow ourselves to retrace our long forgotten steps and to catch-up on the abandoned tasks from before the flare that knocked us down into oblivion.

Out of a Flare – A Need to Investigate and Identify Our New Limits

Every flare is different, and as such, we react differently to each one. And as we come out of a flare, there is a fear of doing ‘too much’ supposing that doing so will exacerbate symptoms, causing another flare.

"Every flare is different, and as such, we react differently to each one. And as we come out of a flare, there is a fear of doing 'too much' supposing that doing so will exacerbate symptoms, causing another flare." Click To Tweet

The problem is, however, we no longer know of our new limits. We may now be able to do more before exacerbating symptoms, or it may be less. Our limits and what and how much we are capable of continually shifts. And as we adjust and accustom to our new limits, a flare occurs to restart the process all over again. Therefore, there is a need to investigate our new energy levels and identify our new limits.

Living with a chronic illness requires a constant need to reassess and investigate our new limits before the onset of symptoms, especially after a flare when we do not know when enough is enough

No one likes to be, or indeed feel unwell. To be constantly sick and continuously feeling the effects of debilitating symptoms is exceptionally unpleasant. Investigating, therefore, becomes another theme of living with a chronic illness. We are continually investigating ways in which we can improve our symptoms, even just a little. Investigating new measures we can undertake to lessen the severity or even the number of flares. Doing so, would drastically improve our quality of life and able us to experience life.

"Investigating becomes another theme of living with a chronic illness. We need to continually investigate ways in which we can improve our symptoms, even just a little." Click To Tweet

Out of a Flare – Boosting Self-Care Habits

We may be coming out of a flare, but do not assume that it means we feel better and are suddenly back to our ‘normal.’ Recovering from a flare is a slow process. A process that does not just happen overnight. Many may assume that when recovering from a flare we need less self-care.

"If we don't boost the need for self-care we run the risk of exacerbating troublesome and unruly symptoms, and the risk of causing another flare." Click To Tweet

I, however, would argue that we’re in fact in need of more self-care. If we do not take the necessary steps to look after ourselves, if we don’t, we run the risk of exacerbating troublesome and unruly symptoms. Taking the time for self-care activities that help boost physical and mental health is necessary to assist us to recover, and help stave off another deterioration.

"Taking the time for self-care activities that help boost physical and mental health is necessary to assist us in recovering, and helping stave off another deterioration." Click To Tweet

Out of a Flare… Time to Explore New Settings

When I am in the midst of a flare, I am unable to cope with anything new and unfamiliar. Not knowing when symptoms are suddenly going to worsen, I crave the reassurance and security of a familiar and comforting setting.

belle quote beauty and the beast adventure in the great wide somewhere — When out of a flare, we start to crave new settings and are ready for adventure.

Coming out of a flare, I, however, start to crave and feel ready for more adventure. I am ready and feel more confident to encounter new settings. Living through a flare, therefore, feels very much like hibernation. A need to hunker down for comfort and to survive the current eruption of symptoms. Only as the threat diminishes, we then feel more prepared to leave the safe environment we spent during the duration of the episode. We now crave adventure, new settings to spend time in as long as we feel well enough to do so.

"Living through a flare feels very much like hibernation — a need to hunker to survive the current eruption of symptoms. Only when the threat diminishes, we feel ready and more prepared to face new and unfamiliar settings." Click To Tweet

Out of a Flare – A Time for Reviving Life

As the flare passes, and we feel out of the danger zone for another one, we can finally start reviving our life. Reviving our love for the activities that fell by the wayside as we lay incapacitated by ruling symptoms.

"As a flare passes, and we feel out of the danger zone for another one, we can finally start reviving our lives once again. Reviving our love for the activities that fell by the wayside as we lay incapacitated by unruly symptoms." Click To Tweet

Books and reading have always been a passion of mine, but during a flare, I have been unable to do so. But, as I am feeling stronger, the fatigue no longer causing double vision I can once again revive my enjoyment of reading.

pages of a book — At the end of a flare we can start to revive and breathe fresh into our lives. Start to revive forgotten hobbies and pursue our passions again. For me, and starting to feel better after a current flare, I have begun to revive my love for reading…

During the last month, I have already finished three books, and nearly half-way through the fourth. I am enjoying finishing my days, tucked into bed and losing myself in the fictional world created by the words of the author of my current choice, being immersed into another world, of another life, distracting me from the constant troubling symptoms of a neurological disorder.

Coming Out Of A Flare: Finding Light At The End Of A Tunnel

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To My Pain

April 20, 2019 4 Comments

Sheryl from A Chronic Voice, as well as sharing her own stories and lessons with chronic illness. Sheryl is an excellent support to other bloggers and writers living with illness and chronic pain. One such way is through monthly link-up parties whereby bloggers and writers share their stories through given prompts. For April, and because for several weeks I have been experiencing a severe pain flare, I would use the prompts to write a letter to my pain.

To My Pain

Yes, I have addressed this letter to you, ‘my’ pain and not just pain. I know pain is felt by many. Perhaps if you were benign, harmless and temporary, I would have only addressed it to pain. But you’re not, you’re persistent and chronic, becoming a significant and permanent part in my life. You have become another part of me, so I think I can refer to you as ‘my pain.’ The pain I feel, the pain you make me feel, is personal to me; something that is felt by only me, remaining invisible and unknown to everyone else.

"Pain is deeply personal to the individual. We do not feel the same pains. It remains invisible and unknown to everyone around us." Click To Tweet

Living with constant and debilitating pain is tiring…well more like exhausting!

What’s it like to live with you, you ask? Well, it’s tiring. Wait, it can be so much more than tiring. It’s exhausting. For weeks now, the excruciating and debilitating as it’s worst, there have been no breaks, no respite from the torment you have been inflicting on me and my life.

"Living with chronic pain is always tiring; exhausting even. Pain allows for no breaks, no respite from its torment." Click To Tweet

You, which has become a sharp, electric shock type of sensation throughout my spine and legs, and one which has prevented me from getting to sleep, or on other occasions waking me from sleep. Getting a decent amount of sleep has therefore been hard to come by. And it has only made these last few weeks even more tiring as a result.

The impact that you have on those you blight spreads far and wide. The heightened levels of pain you have caused me has also added anxiety in my life. At times, I have become so overwhelmed and incapacitated by you that I can find myself unable to function. Physically, it can cause my legs to buckle before giving on me unexpectedly, giving me little time to react. You can also cause brain fog; causing me to remember important information or losing words I am searching for amongst a cloud of thick fog. The added stress and anxiety has become tiring, this constant worry about when this sudden loss of being able to function will occur, even the fear of going out in case of such an attack.

curled up in a foetal position because of pain

It’s tiring having to deal with setbacks that you create; the impediments created by your overwhelming urge to show your continued dominance, causing yet another dreaded flare. The continued knocks to our self-confidence as we once again begin to question our abilities and what we are capable of on any given day.

"It's tiring having to deal with setbacks from chronic pain; the impediments created by its overwhelming urge to show its continued dominance, causing yet another dreaded flare." Click To Tweet

Through difficult times comes the opportunity for educating

Through the exhaustion and tiredness that you create, however, is also the opportunity for educating ourselves about you and what methods we can implement to calm and lessen the effect that you have on my life.

It reminds me of the quote ‘A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.’ Meaning that through the tough times that you cause, we can learn more about what helps and what doesn’t to come up with a more effective pain management plan for the future.

Time and time again I’m reminded that pain is uncontrollable. You like nothing more than to show your power and dominance, and where there is nothing I can do to quieten your reign of terror. To try and control you, would prove to be futile, and waste precious energy I don’t possess. The only thing I can do therefore is to learn ways to manage your existence.

"Time and time again I am reminded that chronic pain is uncontrollable. Liking to show it's power and dominance. We can only learn ways to manage its existence." Click To Tweet

I have been educating myself on alternative methods to manage you and your unwelcome presence. I have been mainly looking into CBD oil and the positive effects it can have on you, on pain. And I have been learning that there is certainly a lot to educate me about concerning CBD oil!

At the receiving end of your wrath…

Until I take action however, I continue to be at the receiving end of your anger and wrath. Especially at night, when there are no distractions to be found to help ease the burden of pain. I’m forced to receive your attempts to enforce insomnia, as well as the debilitating pain.

And unfortunately sleep does not come, and when I awaken, I observe incredibly dark circles under my eyes. My reflection was expressing the lack of sleep that I received the night before. The need to rejoin the real world calls, I depend on concealer and blusher to disguise the physical effects that you bequeath.

"Living with chronic pain and it's invisibility we are often at the receiving end of judgements and suspicion; believing that we are faking being sick when in fact we are faking being well." Click To Tweet

You are mostly invisible, but disguising the only physical evidence of your existence, I am at the receiving end of judgements and suspicion. When people cannot see something, they often deny its reality. In the case, of illness people assume that we must be fabricating our supposed illness; that because we look healthy than we must be so. What most people cannot comprehend that we are not faking being ill, but are instead faking being well.

I'm not faking being sick' I'm actually taking being well

As much as pain has taken it has also been giving…

I could write a long list of what chronic pain has taken from me, such as loss of independence as one example. However, pain has also been giving me little gifts that are important to remember and appreciate.

"As much as chronic pain has taken from me, it has also given me many gifts and taught me many valuable lessons." Click To Tweet

Chronic pain has taught me some valuable lessons that make it easier to bare living with you every day. You have allowed me to learn things about myself that I may have never learned otherwise. Giving me the knowledge that I’m stronger than I ever thought; the training to be better prepared to face difficult situations as well as future flares. Pain has also given me patience. When experiencing a chronic pain flare, although exceptionally unpleasant, I know there will be an end. I need to wait it out, thus requiring patience.

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Quieting…

I am now calling on patience now as I wait on this current chronic pain flare to cease and subside. Oh, I know that you will inevitably return but right now I am waiting on you to quieting down the strength of the power you hold over my body. Waiting on the day to which your volume has quietened enough for me to be able to continue with my life without your constant influence.

Regards

Me, Rhiann.